Any parent who is about to give
their pre-teen “The Talk” is extremely nervous. Not only is the adult nervous
though; the kid is as well. It may seem weird to hear these things coming from
your parent. The conversation will take place in the living room also known as
the family room. It should happen on the weekend so the kid doesn’t immediately
go to school the next day but rather have time to take all of this live
changing information in possibly for the first time. The topic should be
approached with caution so the kid knows that this is a serious manner and not
something to be joking about. The parent should tell the child at dinner that
there will be a family discussion in the living room after the meal is over. Both
parents and the child will gather in the living room and say, “Now that you are
getting a little bit older I am sure you notice the significant difference
between girls and boys and possibly are developing strong feelings and urges
towards someone. We are going to discuss something that you may have heard a
little bit about already but if you have questions at any time, please feel
free to ask. Now Women are made to have babies and men help women make babies.
When a man and a woman love each other, they get married and they have sex,
then 9 months later a baby is born. It is very hard on children when their
parents are not married so that is why it is important to wait until you are
married to have sex. Having sex at any time raises the possibility of getting
pregnant so it is very important to wait to have sex. Choose the person you
have sex with carefully and make sure you are willing to spend the rest of your
life with them because a baby is a huge commitment. Now here is how a baby is
made, a man and a women lay down and he puts his penis in her vagina. The sperm
fertilizes the egg, and the egg turns into a fetus then a baby is born. There
are so many reason not to have sex before you are married, for girls the number
one reason to wait is because that is all guys want from you and once you give
it up to them, he will not want you anymore and he will brag to all his friends
about how he had sex with you, the main reason for boys is due to the fact of
child support, if you have sex before you are married, you most likely don’t
really even like the girl’s personality and you just want to have sex with her
but she will have you paying child support for the next 18 years and always try
to hold something over your head. Please wait until you get married to have
sex. It is not just something you do to feel good, it has much greater consequences
even using preventative measures, a pregnancy can still arise.” Some questions
the parents should anticipate the child to ask might be: “Well what are the
preventative measures? Why should we wait to get married before we have sex,
when everyone else is doing it? Did you wait until you got married to have sex?”
The parents’ answers in the order of questions may be, “Some preventative
measures to use are condoms, birth control, and most importantly abstinence
until you get married. It is hard on children to have a step parent and it is
hard on a parent to pay child support, do not risk pregnancy before marriage, premarital
sex is not worth putting everyone through a hard situation. I did not wait to
have sex before I got married but I promise I wish I would have, men used it as
a way to have power over me and I was too young to realize that until after it
happened. I am lucky I did not get pregnant until after I got married as well,
it is nice to have your Dad and you around all of the time. Please if you even
have a question or a situation, do not feel afraid or embarrassed to come to me
and discuss it, I love you no matter what and please do not confide in anyone
else about this matter as they will be biased about this opinions as they do
not care for your best interest in the same way as I do.”
